Last month, we offered up a spot to y’all to do something brave — be one of three speakers to get on stage and share a moment of personal failure in front of a crowd at an event called FuckUp Nights.
The reader who was up for the challenge: Tori Dunlap, a marketer, blogger, coach, and founder of Victori Media. Why would she want to go public at last night’s event?
“Being able to publicly acknowledge shame — the more we can talk about that publicly, the more we feel less alone,” she said.
TORI’S F*CK UP: Not listening to her intuition and taking a job as a social media manager that was the wrong fit. “I got distracted. I ignored all the red flags and focused on the green instead,” she said. Among the issues? The company’s culture and a boss who didn’t help her grow. She left each day feeling misrable and defeated. After nearly three months, she realized she needed to leave.
THE RISK SHE TOOK: “I committed one of the biggest personal finance no-nos, which is quitting a job without having another one lined up. But I’d do it again, 10 times over,” Tori said. In the year since she quit her job, she’s found a new gig as a digital marketer at a financial tech startup.
GOING PUBLIC: “I have a public persona. I have peers who see me as someone who has their shit together. I thought it’d hurt my brand and my credibility [to share my failure],” she said. Instead, by talking publicly and writing about her experiences, people reached out to her, sharing their own, similar stories. Admitting her mistake, Tori said, “made people see me as a quote-unquote ‘real person.’”
ADVICE SHE’D GIVE TO SOMEONE IN A SIMILAR SPOT: Have an emergncy fund to support yourself. “Whether it’s for a bad job situation, a medical bill, a bad relationship — [having one] gives you freedom,” she said.
Big props to Tori for sharing her story, which you can read more about on her website, victorimedia.com. Want to check out FuckUp Nights yourself? Stay tuned to their website and their Facebook page so you can catch their next event. And for more on what went down at last night’s FuckUp Nights — an Evergrey partner event — check out today’s Instagram story.
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O, Cannabis! Recreational marijuana is officially legit in all of Canada. There are plenty of puff pieces on what that means for the country and the budding industry it suddenly dominates (😉). But if you want the local scoop — or as close as we can get to that in the Pacific Northwest — relive Legalization Day with this live blog from our Canuck neighbors three hours north. (Vancouver Sun)
Voilà, view. The Alaskan Way Viaduct — also known as State Route 99 — has been giving drivers a front-row waterfront seat to this changing city since 1953. It’s coming down for good early next year, a big (tolled!) tunnel will replace it, and the laments are trickling in. “In the mile between the Battery Street tunnel and SODO,” writes Crosscut’s Rob French, “practically the whole story of Seattle — past and present, grand and depressing — is laid out before you.” (Crosscut)
🔭 TOMORROW: Look up and learn at Foundation’s Science for Curious Simpletons: Astronomy in the Planetarium (Queen Anne)
🍸 TOMORROW: Follow up the astronomy adventure above with a look at the science of distilling at Pacific Science Center (Queen Anne)
😂 Saturday: Check out a musical comedy show featuring Washington State Poet Laureate Claudia Castro Luna (Capitol Hill)
☮️ Wednesday, Oct. 24: Check in with yourself and your business around racial equity at this Impact Hub Lunch + Learn (Pioneer Square)
📚 Thursday, Oct. 25: Learn how to rekindle your curiosity and creativity from an author who’s not f*cking around (Downtown)
🌃 Friday, Oct. 26 – Saturday Oct. 27: Get involved in a community conversation to talk about solutions for housing our neighbors living homeless (Pioneer Square)
👂 Wednesday Oct. 31: Learn how to be a better, more effective listener at this Impact Hub Lunch + Learn (Pioneer Square) 🆕
🍷 Take a stroll and sip local wines (Bellevue)
🎃 Shiver while listening to spooky, improvised ghost stories (Downtown)
💡 Ask scientists about their orca and salmon research (Ballard)
🎨 Dance and explore Seattle Art Museum’s new royal Indian art exhibit (Downtown)
👋 Explore the Wing Luke Museum after hours (International District)
🎶 Hear Sherlock Holmes-inspired tunes by local musicians (Capitol Hill)
🎃 Go to an occultist dinner show — through Nov. 18 (Pioneer Square)
🍿 Check out the German Film Festival — through Sunday (Queen Anne)
💡 Unleash your inner DIY nerd at a home design show (SoDo)
🎃 Dance at this MoPOP Halloween party (Queen Anne)
🎃 Drink at this Halloween pub crawl (Downtown)
🎃 Dress up for this anime Halloween party (Central District)
🏞 Fight your fear of spiders by taking a tour of their turf (West Seattle)
🎟 Laugh at a localized SNL comedy show at this Evergrey partner event (Capitol Hill)
🎃 Bring your little ones to a fall festival for pie and pony rides (West Seattle)
🍿 Dive into foreign flicks at the Polish Film Festival — through Oct. 28 (Queen Anne)
🍴 Eat your way through Seattle Restaurant Week — through Nov. 8 (All over)
🎃 Run through a corn maze and pick some pumpkins (All over)
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We’ll see you tomorrow. — The Evergrey